8 things I’ve learned in the first half of 2014

1 – Apologizing for offending someone can be a blow to your own ego and I don’t believe offending someone is always a reason to apologize in the first place. That doesn’t mean that pride and stubbornness should prevent you from apologizing though. Besides the effect on relationships with others, apologizing for doing something that’s not congruent with what you stand for, can really make you feel better about yourself.

2 – I used to have some back issues, that went away for the most part when I started lifting and moving around properly, but it plays up once in a while. I have recently concluded that my back has never, ever felt as good as after doing certain exercises – romanian deadlifts and incline batwings.

 

Incline batwing. Basically a two-armed dumbbell row on an incline bench with extra focus on scapular protraction and retraction.

 

3 – You always know less than you think you do. Keep learning.

4 – About 80-90% of women have cellulite. Many of those women are troubled by this. In 26 years time, despite discussing women, their personalities and their looks with other men extensively (and of course being overly judgmental and sexist when doing so) and having heard men complain about women’s saggy boobs, lack of skill in bed, excessive nagging or unattractive faces… I have never, ever heard a man complain about a woman’s cellulite. Draw your own conclusions, ladies. (The ones that make you worry less about your cellulite and make you more secure about yourself, not the ones that make you insecure about your boobs or skills, please.)

 

5 – Krista Bunni is utterly fascinating.

 

6 – If you think you know yourself well and you have a Sartre-esque view on life where you trust that your good intentions will make everything fall into the right place, you are delusional and completely oblivious to the fact that the relationship between your thoughts and actions may be interpreted completely different by other people, thus messing with how people view you. Example: You always try to help people (behavior) because you want people to be happy (intention), yet people find you annoying as fuck because you keep trying to meddle in other people’s affairs. Of course, you say that it’s not your problem and that those people are just being ungrateful – they just don’t know/understand you. Even if it’s true, you can still mess up relationships this way.

7 – Tiger balm and ballsacks don’t go well together. Trust me on this.

8 – The method I use to deal with (and usually disregard) gossip and rumours is apparently pretty old. Greek wiseguy Epictetus already gave advice about it a very long time ago: “If anyone tells you that a certain person speaks ill of you, do not make excuses about what is said of you but answer, ‘He was ignorant of my other faults, else he would not have mentioned these alone.’”

 

“Uncommon at best is he who hath not on occasion idled his time away on Youporn when duty required his full attention instead.” – William Shakespeare